My left eye is twitching. Almost all of the time. I have no idea what that means – secret stress? What secret stress; I am a mother of two small children, wife to an over achieving husband, mother of a teenager who is soon to turn 20 and finding out what he wants out of life, and a teacher.
Every year, usually on the 1st of January, I post about my goals or aspirations for the next year. You can see them catalogued here on this blog, and every year is a report on my failure on achieving said goals.
This year I am doing something different. I have already started in fact. This year I am going to work on building systems to help me manage my life so that it better shaped to my success.
I could go on about what systems are, their connection to habits, and how they are better than goals, but you can find out all about it reading or listening to Atomic Habits.
For me my plan is to try and build a new system every month. If I am even successful at one, I will call it a success.
January: Devotions – either first thing in morning using the Bible app, or more in-depth studies conducted at night. The second is preferable because I believe that devotions should be deep dives into the word, but I may no have the time.
February: Exercise – doesn’t matter what it is but thirty minutes a day. Doesn’t have to be strenuous as my body has deteriorated a lot, but I have to do something. This will be revised to consider what type of exercise to do, increasing intensity as health permits.
March: Food – even though I am still keeping an eye on what I eat, I really want to actually start counting carbohydrates. My most successful time losing ‘weight’ in my life was when I was pregnant with my daughter and had gestational diabetes. It’s not a ‘no carb’ diet but it is a restricted carb diet that requires a certain amount to be eaten at a time. It helped my weight but also my energy levels. I really need to get back to that.
April: Water – I don’t drink enough. My husband is a Koala and can survive in drinking coffee and maybe juice and is fine. I need two litres or more, or I get dehydrated which then leads to my sinuses becoming inflamed and I have a migraine.
May: Garden – regularly spend time outdoors to maintain the vegetable garden. For the past three to four years we have been trying to grow our own food, we have not been that successful because gardening is more than putting seeds in the ground. We need to weed regularly instead of once every now and then so we are not spending hours getting it set up. This also means getting my worm farm back up and running.
June: Personal time with each child – I am unsure how this would look, but I want to have a ‘date’ with each of my children. Kinda thinking that if there are four weeks (roughly) in the month then I can do one weekend each. I may even have a date with my husband factored in, that is not shopping for groceries.
July: Cleaning – Re-evaluate the systems I already have in place to better maintain my house because I need to have a clean and tidy house to function… and I need to function.
August: Personal Physical upkeep – I have no sense of fashion, but if I have some sort of unified idea of what I like to wear and how I wish to present myself, I might find it easier to just get up and put on clothes and be comfortable in those clothes. That’s it really. I know I will not wear make up, but moisturiser every morning should be as routine as cleaning my teeth… anyhoo, I will address this one when I get to it.
September: Writing – one little thing a day, maybe a certain amount of words, maybe world building, I am not sure. Again, I will figure this out when I get there.
I am leaving the rest of the year clear as this is more than enough to deal with. I will be putting in a lot of time with work, so when I am home I want the system building to be organic and easy to maintain, otherwise I will see it as just another thing to do.
Of course each month will include a reflection on how the system I built the month/s before a going and make changes accordingly.
Here’s to a new way of doing things.